The log in our eye
Marriage was established by God and like everything else God does it is the object of Satan’s attacks. Marriage is intended to symbolize the relationship between God and the people who worship him. In the Old Testament Israel is called the wife of God and in the New the church is referred to as the bride of Christ. In both cases God is represented by the male partner in the marriage and the people by the female. A union between two men or two women doesn’t show this relationship. That is why Christians must oppose the drive to legalize same sex marriage.
But in our zeal to defend against Satan’s attack on one front we have left another one completely unguarded and allowed Satan to win a major victory.
Those who oppose same sex marriage point out that God established marriage as a union between a man and a woman but this definition is incomplete. Marriage is intended to be a permanent union between a man and a woman and to be ended only by the death of one of the partners in the marriage. Divorce is as much a violation of God’s standards for marriage as same sex marriage is.
About 40 years ago there was a campaign to make divorce easier by allowing no fault divorce. This was a greater threat to marriage than the legalization of same sex marriage would be; only a small percentage of the population is interested in marrying someone of the same sex but the possibility of divorce exists for every marriage. We should have opposed this as strongly as we do same sex marriage but we failed to do so and now the divorce rate among Christians is as high as it is among the general population.
Proponents of same sex marriage often accuse us of hypocrisy because we fail to speak out against divorce and they have a point. Look at what Jesus said:
Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, “Let me take the speck out of your eye,” when there is the log in your own eye?
There are probably many people who think we should simply stop opposing same sex marriage so we won’t be hypocrites any longer but Jesus has given us a better solution to our problem.
You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.
This verse contains a command and a promise.
The command is to take the log out of our own eye. We must begin by recognizing the permanence of marriage and try to put an end to divorce among Christians. Whenever we have the opportunity we should try to change our laws to make divorce more difficult and encourage people to stay married but changing the way Christians live is more important than changing laws.
The promise is that if we take the log out of our own eye we will be able to take the speck out of our brother’s eye. The first step toward eliminating same sex marriage from our society would be to eliminate divorce from the Christian community.